A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked. “What does it mean, mother?”
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another lever?
How do you handle Adversity? Are you a Carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
“There are two attitudes towards money. There’s the attitude
held by the majority who trim their wants and desires to fit
their incomes; and there’s the attitude held by the minority-
free spirits who make their incomes fit their wants.
Which of these attitudes represents your present thinking?”
– Think and Grow Rich, A Black Choice
I already know which you are.
You’re the free spirit sort- the sort who is working towards
a new goal, a new desire, and a new life.
How do I know?
Because you are working towards that. You’re reading this
right now, you’re going to meetings, you are LEARNING new
skills from new people.
Keep your attitude UP, and “free-spirited”; STRETCH IT
and you’ll make your income fit your wants.
And when you lose it (as we all do), you’ll know
where to go to get it lifted again.
Where we are.
Stretching with you.
What’s that goal you have that the MAJORITY would think is silly?
What’s the DREAM you envision that the MAJORITY won’t understand?
Whatever it is, we applaud it.
Whatever it is, we know you can do it.
Whatever it is, we’ll help.
There are only three steps to keeping your attitude stretched:
On December 1, 1955 Mrs. Rosa Parks was COMMANDED by a bus driver to give up her seat to a white male passenger who had just boarded. Mrs. Parks simply said “no.” She knew she was breaking the law, but she nevertheless refused to move.
In response, the bus driver stopped the bus, called the police, and had her arrested:
“I don’t really know why I wouldn’t move,” she later commented. “There was no plot or plan at all. I was just tired from shopping. My feet hurt.”
She had been a civil rights leader before, but when this incident occurred, she was at a cross-roads; She could just pay the fine and be done with it, or she could stand up for what she believed.
She was fearful of the latter.
Many people don’t know this, but it was her attorney who had to persuade her to take the matter to the Supreme Court, and to institute a boycott of the buses. IT WAS NOT HER INTENTION.
After her HESITANT permission, she became the center of a movement that would forever change the face of power in the United States.
An accidental leader, and accidental figure- someone’s whose feet hurt became a lightning rod for social change, and has liberated millions as a result.
You said “yes” to an opportunity- maybe your sponsor had to persuade you a bit, and maybe you joined hesitantly. Maybe you’re just tired from shopping on credit and knowing each bit of pleasure you’re trying to buy yourself gets you deeper in the pit of debt.
Maybe your feet hurt because you’re constantly running on the treadmill of the rat race; it’s exhausting, and there aren’t many who survive it without broken bodies, marriages, and families.
But YOU can be a lightning rod for change.
You can help thousands just because you CHOSE to say “no” to the rat race anymore. You CHOSE to do something for your future.
It takes courage to make a choice.
You can help thousands just because you want more money for yourself, or more time for your family. Other people will join you just because THEY want those same things- they want that same FREEDOMS- and they’ll be joining for THEIR families.
It all takes courage, and you have it. Martin Luther King Jr. said that courage is “the power of the mind to overcome fear.”
Rosa Parks had courage, your sponsor has courage, our TEAM has courage.
We welcome you to our team.
Today’s message comes from Steve McMillan, Bob Proctor Certified Life Coach:
There is a formula for success. There are no accidents in life. The are deliberate actions that will yield predictable results.
One of the most powerful tools at our diposal is the use of auto-suggestion. Repeat this: “What the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.” By programming your mental attitude for success through autosuggestion, what you condition yourself for soon becomes a part of you. Consequently, you dare to aim higher.
I like to think of this as imprinting rather than self-suggestion. In nature, we see animals following this practice. If it works in the animal kingdom, of which we are part, it should work for us – but even better because we can do it consciously whereas the lower animals cannot. Think about it! What you think about you become! When you think about success rather than failure, when you think about happiness rather than sorrow, when you think about faith rather than fear, you are imprinting expectations in your subconscious mind that your conscious mind sets out to find in your every day sensory world. How awesome is that? It’s our personal buried treasure map! The fact that we can condition ourselves for success is, in itself, a miracle of mental awareness.
Now that we have the operating instructions that are the key to our success, we can truly become what we think about – so think good, lofty thoughts!
“Nothing could be more tragic
than for men to live in these revolutionary times
and fail to achieve the new attitudes and the
new mental outlooks that the new situation demands.”
-Martin Luther King Jr.
Job security is gone.
Benefits are gone.
Yesterday is gone.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
It might seem like a tragedy that we no longer
have faceless corporations taking care of us, that
our government isn’t making our living, but I see
it as a liberating revolution.
People are suddenly seeing that we CAN rely on ourselves
and each other; that we CAN think more of ourselves and
each other- that we can BE more than ourselves and each other-
That we have VALUE.
But there will be those who fight it- who want to NOT
have value- who would rather be told what to do, when
to do it, and won’t even ask why.
We can’t give them value, but we can value them.
We can’t give them courage, but we can encourage them.
But we CAN find those who are listening for our song;
we can be the examples for them to follow. I promise-
we didn’t convince you of anything when you joined us-
YOU HEARD THE SONG, AND WANTED TO SING.
You have value, you have courage, and you have a
burning desire for more- so let’s go get it together!
Today is message from Steve McMillan, Bob Proctor Certified Life Coach:
Success is a system and not a secret is what I have learned through Napoleon Hill and his great book, ” Think and Grow Rich”. I have learned that like attracts like and that thoughts become things because what we think about we become. Through our imagination we create plans and put them into action. We go the extra mile in all our interactions. Our motto is, “Do it Now!” The foundational principles for outstanding success are:
1. Definiteness of Purpose
2. Mastermind Alliance
3. Applied Faith
4. Habit of Going The Extra Mile
Napoleon Hill believed in a Master Mind that used the collective consciousness of its members to actively solve problems and create new ideas and plans. It begins with a definite purpose rendered with better service than that for which one is paid, done in a positive mental attitude, and with a creative imagination that is applied with faith. Remember, faith without action is merely a wish.
A definite purpose backed by applied faith, is a form of wisdom, and wisdom in action, produces positive results.
Decide now what you want out of life and what you will give in return for it. Begin right now where you stand. Then as you progress other and better means will be revealed to you.
I am a DEVOTEE of Robert Kiyosaki- here’s a great article from him:
(also available here: http://elevenf.blogspot.com/2007/07/its-asset-not-job.html)
Network Marketing–It’s an Asset, Not a Job
By Robert Kiyosaki
I am sometimes asked, “Why do so few people make it to the top of their network marketing system?”
The truth is, the top of the network marketing system is open to everyone–unlike traditional corporate systems, which allow only one person to reach the top of the company. The reason most people do not reach the top is simply because they quit too soon. So why would someone quit short of the top?
Most people join only to make money. If they don’t make money in the first few months or years, they become discouraged and quit (and then often bad-mouth the industry!). Others quit and go looking for a company with a better compensation plan. But joining to make a few quick dollars is not the reason to get into the business.
The Two Essential Reasons to Join a Network Marketing Business
Reason number one is to help yourself. Reason number two is to help others. If you join for only one of these two reasons, then the system will not work for you.
Reason number one, means that you come to the business primarily to change quadrants–to change from the E (Employee) or the S (Self-employed) quadrant to the B (Business owner) or I (Investor) quadrant.
This change is normally very difficult for most people–because of money. The true E or S quadrant person will not work unless it is for money. This is also what causes people to not reach the top of the network marketing system: they want money more than they want to change quadrants.
A B quadrant or I quadrant person will also work for money, but in a different way. The B quadrant person works to build or create an asset–in this case, a business system. The I quadrant person invests in the asset or the system.
The beauty of most network marketing systems is that you do not really make much money unless you help others leave the E and S quadrants and succeed in the B and I quadrants. If you focus on helping others make this shift, then you will be successful in the business.
As a B or an I, sometimes you don’t get paid for years; this, a true E quadrant or S quadrant person will not do. It’s not part of their core values. Risk and delayed gratification disturb them emotionally.
Delayed Gratification and Emotional Intelligence
One of the beauties of network marketing is that it focuses on developing your emotional intelligence as well as your business skills.
Emotional intelligence is an entirely different matter from academic intelligence. In general, someone with high emotional intelligence will often do better than someone with high academic intelligence but low emotional intelligence. That explains, in part, why some people do well in school but not so well in the real world.
The ability to delay gratification is a sign of higher emotional intelligence. In a recent study of emotional intelligence, it was found that people who could delay gratification often led more successful lives than those who could not.
This is why the educational system inherent in a good network marketing opportunity is so important. It’s the emotional education or emotional intelligence aspect of their programs that I find so valuable for people.
Many people write me and tell me they loved my book, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, but I fear that many of them don’t get the most important point of the book: Lesson #1, “The rich don’t work for money.”
Once I have built or bought an asset, that asset works hard to make money for me. But I will not work for money–I will work only to build or buy assets. Those assets make me richer and richer, while I work less and less. That is what the rich do. The poor and middle class work hard for money, and then buy liabilities instead of investing in assets.
What Kind of Asset is a Network Marketing Business?
Remember, there are two reasons required to be successful in network marketing: to help yourself, and to help others. Reason number one means helping yourself get to the B side of the quadrant. What about reason number two?
The beauty of most network marketing systems is that you don’t really make much money unless you help others leave the E and S quadrants and succeed in the B and I quadrants . If you focus on helping others make this shift, then you will be successful in the business.
If you only want to teach yourself to be a B quadrant and I quadrant person, then a true network marketing system won’t work for you. You may as well go to a traditional business school, which focuses only on your becoming a B quadrant person.
The beauty of a network marketing business is that your goal is to create assets, which are other B’s working under you–and their job is to create other B’s working under them. In traditional business, the focus is for the B to have only E’s and S’s working for them.
The type of business I was taught to build is a business with me at the top and E’s and S’s at the base. I really don’t have room at the top for many other B’s, which is why in my businesses, I strongly recommend that all my employees look into network marketing as their own part-time businesses.
The traditional corporate system really is a pyramid, because there are a few B’s and I’s near the top, and more E’s and S’s at the base. A network marketing system is a reverse pyramid: its primary focus is to bring up more and more B’s to the top.
One type of pyramid, the traditional type, has its base on the ground; the other type has its base in the air. It’s a pyramid that pulls you up instead of pushing you down. A network marketing business gives everyone access to what used to be the domain only of the rich.
This passage is excerpted by permission from:
The Business School for People Who Like Helping People
So, while the poor and middle class go to work to get MONEY,
the rich go to work on CREATING ASSETS. If you think about CREATING
AN ASSET, all of a sudden, your focus becomes clearer, and the little things really won’t matter.
Three Warning Signs of Poverty Mentality by Randy Gage
Dear human being,
When was the last time you gave any serious thought to your priorities, and where you expend your energy? Can you say with certainty that you are completely focused on ‘abundance’ and not on ‘lack’?
I don’t think people are born with an abundance mentality or a lack mentality. I think for many of us our priorities are the result of subtle, subconscious ‘programming’ that determines our approach to just about everything in life. Instead of being programmed for success, most people are programmed to avoid failure.
This programming controls how you react to hundreds of situations, each and every day. And the way you react reveals what your programming really is.
There are many different warning signs all around us that we are suffering from lack programming or a poverty mentality, but none of these red flags will be of any use until we open our eyes and start looking for them.
Like posted traffic signs and speed limits, these warning signs are there for our benefit, helping us raise awareness of our programming. Three of the most common warning signs I see are the following:
Warning sign #1: Constant Money Fixation What do you think about money? When you do think about it, are you concerned about how much of it you lack, or how much you can manifest? Have you ever thought about why you want to manifest money in the first place?
Most poor people spend all their time thinking about money (or more specifically, their lack of it). When I was younger and broke, that’s what I did. I was fixated on money. I thought about all the things I didn’t have and couldn’t get. And I was very jealous of the people who had them.
Warning sign #2: “I Hate Rich People!” Being jealous of all the things other people had that I didn’t help matters. Know where it led? Jealousy soon turned to hate. Soon I hated all rich people because they had what I wanted — nice homes, exotic cars, expensive clothes. That’s when the real problems started, because as much as I hated rich people, I was working hard every day trying to become one! That set the stage for a whole bunch of internal conflict that I had no idea was going on.
I ended up surging forward to success, only to sabotage myself every time I got close. I snatched defeat from the jaws of victory more times than I can count.
I thought I was programmed for success, but was actually programmed for poverty.
Warning sign #3: Fear-Based Decision-Making Making decisions based on fear of loss or failure never leads toward prosperity.
In fact, fear-based decision-making can rob you of any sense of happiness or joy of success, and distort your behavior.
Have you ever seen someone experience more anguish at losing $10 than earning $100? Ever seen someone drive around a parking lot for 10 minutes to avoid a one-minute walk to the store?
These scenarios are fear-based, not prosperity driven. The decisions are not made on what the possible benefits are, but made in order to avoid a possible negative outcome.
How do you know what kind of programming you have? If you really want to know if you have prosperity programming or a poverty mentality, look for your answer in the previous scenarios. Do they sound familiar?
If you make decisions–particularly money and career ones–based on the “moving away from fear” model, you’ve got poverty programming. If your decisions are made based on a positive “move toward prosperity” model, then you have success programming.
What do you do if you test poverty programming?
You’re already doing it. Raise your awareness of your programming and recognize it for what it is. Of particular importance is regulating the influences you’re getting from the TV shows and movies you watch, books you read, etc.
I applied the principles of a prosperity mentality, and you’d be hard pressed to find anyone who has had a greater degree of turnaround. This only happened because I was willing to confront my weaknesses, discover and eliminate the insidious poverty mentality I had, and replace it with positive programming. To this day, I am ever vigilant, mindful of what I allow myself to watch and listen to, and the people I associate with.
The more you experience success and prosperity, the more you’ll start to realize how little they have to do with opportunity, chance, luck–or even training, education, or skill. It has everything to do with consciousness, beliefs, and even subconscious programming that you aren’t aware of.
You see, poverty is not an absence of money and things — it is a mindset.
Prosperity is not an abundance of money and things–it’s also a mindset.
When I began studying the laws that govern prosperity, I had to get out of my comfort zone, face fears, and really examine my belief system. It was hard work, and sometimes still is, but the results are well worth the temporary discomfort. I share all of this with you in the hope you too will benefit from its truth. I want you to be healthy, happy, and rich!
Yesterday I showed you my sample website, and gave you the strategy for how to build your website.
Today. I’ll tell you who to get your website in front of:
You can use any methods you want to showcase your website, but remember:
YOUR WEBSITE IS NOT FOR SPONSORING, IT’S FOR GENERATING LEADS.
So, to generate leads, you are looking for people who are like you.
You may think that going to all of the “make money online” forums are great, but you’d be wrong. There are too many people all displaying their businesses there.
Why not go to online forums where there are people who are interested in the things you are interested in?
If you like fishing, go to the fishing forums.
If you like the news, go to those.
If you like Star Trek, go to those.
Then, you can just participate in the discussions, and you can have your website in your signature line. Maybe the discussion will motivate you to talk about the great webcast you saw, or the DVD you watched, or whatever.
Look for people who are like you, and who ask YOU for a chance to see your business. Then let the website show it to them!
That’s the simplest advice I have for you, and I even made a site for my mom to use this strategy:
Write your blog, Follow that pattern, and Then EXPOSE the business to them!